Wednesday, November 2, 2011

...Just for an extra bedroom - A sad bitter reality


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Every person who is far away from their parents, for jobs should read this heart touching story!!!

WRITTEN BY AN INDIAN ENGINEER.. 

A Bitter Reality
As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Engineering and joined a company based in USA , the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in theUSA , it was as if a dream had come true. Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India . 

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat. I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down. 

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks.. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate. In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA , after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA . My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children. Every year I decide to go toIndia … But part work, part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rites the society members had done whatever they could. 
I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my  wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA ...
My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India ... My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA ... I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India ... I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality. 
Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes, wondered was it worth all this?

My father, even after staying in India , Had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more. I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.  Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I 20get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.
Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them. 

But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'
I am still searching for an answer...... ............ ..!!!
also waiting for your answer eagerly

START THINKING
IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???
LIFE IS BEYOND THIS …...DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ……..
START LIVING IT …….
LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE …

10 comments:

  1. Awsome true story
    everyone should read this

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  2. hi,
    i'll not say good story
    i'll not say good post
    i'll not say thanks for post
    .

    i would like to say again its time to think about our progress
    is really this our true progess.

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  3. i don hav answer to your question, but i will definitely say this article is worth.
    goin abroad has bcom a growing fashion and its lik searching darkness havin candle in hand...

    let us learn to be happy wit wat we hav....
    there's lot more in india than foreign nations...
    we shud learn to respect our nation!!!
    jai hind!!

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    1. Please think wisely of the consequences before taking a big decision... Taking a decision of marrying someone and having kids is a big step u have to be capable cause responsibilities come .They are human too, they have a life they are not objects. You are taking a big decision a responsibility of creating a family. If u rise they rise too and if u fall they fall too.
      I wont blame anyone nor your kids not your wife and not even your parents , its completely your fault. I understand my words seems harsh to hear but thats reality.
      Dont marry if you are not capable or ready, you end up being a home wrecker.
      I know because Im a victim for this type of casual big decision

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  4. you are a loser a very big one.
    The one thing I like most about America is that you can make it good there if you have talent.
    But obviously you had no talent Therefore you failed.
    I HOPE YOU DIE ALONE YOU FUCKING LOSER.

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    1. Please think wisely of the consequences before taking a big decision... Taking a decision of marrying someone and having kids is a big step u have to be capable cause responsibilities come .They are human too, they have a life they are not objects. You are taking a big decision a responsibility of creating a family. If u rise they rise too and if u fall they fall too.
      I wont blame anyone nor your kids not your wife and not even your parents , its completely your fault. I understand my words seems harsh to hear but thats reality.
      Dont marry if you are not capable or ready, you end up being a home wrecker.
      I know because Im a victim for this type of casual big decision

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  5. Please think wisely of the consequences before taking a big decision... Taking a decision of marrying someone and having kids is a big step u have to be capable cause responsibilities come .They are human too, they have a life they are not objects. You are taking a big decision a responsibility of creating a family. If u rise they rise too and if u fall they fall too.
    I wont blame anyone nor your kids not your wife and not even your parents , its completely your fault. I understand my words seems harsh to hear but thats reality.
    Dont marry if you are not capable or ready, you end up being a home wrecker.
    I know because Im a victim for this type of casual big decision

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  6. I read this story 15 years back and was touched by it. Was back in India then. This story reverberates in my mind and have even told this story to many.

    Never did I realize that one day, I will be staring at the stars and see this happening in my life. Albeit the story would go differently where the women no longer want to leave a cozy and happy foreign life and the man, dying to get out of the quicksand that we get sucked into every day, inch by inch, till it is a point of no return.

    Another aspect is it is no longer a scenario of just extra bedroom. Now, money is not an issue. It is the inability to convince the family that we can have life back in India.

    Alas, I will perish here on a foriegn soil that I can never consider my home.

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